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Those who are friends with me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter know that I am in a class called Comm Law (Communication Law). Ask anyone in the Comm major or anyone who has a Comm degree from AU and they will all agree this is the hardest class for our major. We all complain about this class. We all dread the tests. We all just hope for a passing grade so we can graduate.

The night before our big test, we all seem to end up in the library. Everyone breaks off into small groups to study together.  Often when groups take a break, they go see how the other groups are doing. The group I normally study with have certain traditions like walking through the whole library before deciding on a place to call our own for the night. We also take away some of the stress with photo ops and snacks. At the end of night, before we head off to our beds to get a some much needed sleep, we huddle together to pray for wisdom and understanding for the next day.

As much as I dislike Comm Law, I do love how it seems to bring unity among us. There are people in this class who I would never have considered a friend, people I never would have acknowledged in passing, people I may have judged based on appearance. But because of this class, it’s totally different. I’ve become friends with new people. I smile and say hi or stop and talk to people I never would have before. I laugh with people I’d never talked to before nor would have if it weren’t for this class.

In tragedy or crisis, people come together. Take 9/11- all of America became unified, even the least of the patriotic felt love for their country during this time. Consider disasters like the earthquake in Haiti- people came together to help no matter their background or social status or skin color.

Of course this one class is not a tragedy or crisis or disaster. But it is bringing unity among those in the class. We cheer each other on. We help one another understand. We look out for each other. We congratulate those who do well on the tests and encourage those who don’t. To me, that is beauty.

As believers, I think this should be our goal. Unity. No matter our denomination or how we decide to worship or how we spend our money or what causes us to stumble in our walk- we should come together as one body of Christ. We should cheer on the strong ones and lift up the fallen ones. As the song goes:

We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord
We are one in the Spirit, we are one in the Lord

And we pray that all unity may one day be restored
And they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love
They will know we are Christians by our love

We will work with each other, we will work side by side
We will work with each other, we will work side by side
And we’ll guard each one’s dignity and save each one’s pride
And they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love
They will know we are Christians by our love

We will walk with each other, we will walk hand in hand
We will walk with each other, we will walk hand in hand
And together we’ll spread the news that God is in our land
And they’ll know we are Christians by our love, by our love
They will know we are Christians by our love


Ya know all those personality tests people take? I love those. I love learning new things about myself that I really knew all along but I just never knew the name for it or it just never clicked. I think learning about myself through these tests have really helped me grow in many different ways. For instance, I’ve learned how to relate to people better and I’ve learned some of the things I don’t like about myself are actually strengths and I should look at them that way. So I’m about to share with you the main “personality tests” I’ve taken since I’ve been in college. It will definitely show you who I am and I hope you see where you fit in some of these. I bet we have some similarities too.

Let’s start with love. More specifically love languages. There are five love languages or the ways you receive and give love best: Touch, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Quality Time.  My answers:  I give and receive love best through quality time and words of affirmation. These two were tied for first. Touch and gifts were tied for second. Acts of service basically didn’t exist for me. I totally agreed with this and now that I know it–wow, it is so true. I never knew how important quality time is to me but it most definitely is. And of course words of affirmation would be high– I’m a writer. I love writing letters and I love receiving them.
This one I’m sure everyone has heard of: Meijers Brigs, which I just recently found out my answers for.  It basically gives you four letters to describe your personality. E or I- where do you get your energy from? I’m an E for extravert– I like being around other people. Meijers Brigs says extraverts “tend to act, then reflect, then act further. If they are inactive, their motivation tends to decline. To rebuild their energy, extraverts need breaks from time spent in reflection.”

  • Extraverts are action oriented, while introverts are thought oriented.
  • Extraverts seek breadth of knowledge and influence, while introverts seek depth of knowledge and influence.
  • Extraverts often prefer more frequent interaction, while introverts prefer more substantial interaction.
  • Extraverts recharge and get their energy from spending time with people, while introverts recharge and get their energy from spending time alone.

Did you catch that? My “quality time” love language came into play there…

The next letter is either S or N. These two are usually pretty close and the hardest to figure out. I’m an S for sensing. “Individuals who prefer sensing are more likely to trust information that is in the present, tangible and concrete: that is, information that can be understood by the five senses. They tend to distrust hunches, which seem to come out of nowhere. They prefer to look for details and facts. For them, the meaning is in the data.”  I think this is why I’m a journalist and I like news writing rather than opinion or editorial writing. Just give me the facts.

The next two letters are F or T for feeling or thinking which are both used to make rational decisions based on the data received from the information-gathering functions (sensing or intuition). I’m an F for feeling. “Those who prefer feeling tend to come to decisions through assocaiting or empathizing the situation, looking at it from the ‘inside’ and weighing the situation to achieve on balance the greatest harmony and fit considering the needs of everyone involved.” Yep, I’m definitely a pros and cons list maker. I also think I always involve other people in my decision making. I like minimizing harm- which choice will hurt the least amount of people?

The last letters are J or F and they describe how you like to live your outer life–what are the behaviors others tend to see? Do you prefer a more structured and decided lifestyle (Judging) or a more flexible and adaptable lifestyle (Perceiving)? I’m definitely a J. “To others, I seem to prefer a planned or orderly way of life, like to have things settled and organized, feel more comfortable when decisions are made, and like to bring life under control as much as possible. Since this pair only describes what I prefer in the outer world, I may, inside, feel flexible and open to new information. Do not confuse Judging with judgmental, in its negative sense about people and events. They are not related.” The following statements generally apply to me:

  • I like to have things decided.
  • I appear to be task oriented.
  • I like to make lists of things to do.
  • I like to get my work done before playing.
  • I plan work to avoid rushing just before a deadline.
  • Sometimes I focus so much on the goal that I miss new information.

Holy cow, this is so me. Just read my blog “Strength vs. Weakness.” I’m definitely task oriented. I love making lists. I usually get everything done before I allow myself to do something fun. Yeah, I’m a J.

So altogether, I’m an ESFJ. Interestingly enough, only 9-13% of the US population are ESFJs.

Last year I took a leadership course. I didn’t really like the class, but I did love taking the Strengths Quest test. Basically you take this test where you have just a few seconds to answer each question- that way you get your first, gut answer without over-thinking questions (which is so something I would do). Then, it tells you your top five strengths. Mine are: Belief, Discipline, Positivity, Connectedness, and Futuristic. Here’s what Strengths Quest says about each of those:

  • “People especially talented in the Belief theme have certain core values that are unchanging. Out of these values emerges a defined purpose for their life.” I think my belief in God and my value in family is what came into play here.
  • “People especially talented in the Discipline theme enjoy routine and structure. Their world is best described by the order they create.” Yep, those lists and that task oriented thing…
  • “People especially talented in the Positivity theme have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.” Wow, that made me feel good. 🙂
  • “People especially talented in the Connectedness theme have faith in the links between all things. They believe there are few coincidences and that almost every event has a reason.” I definitely believe “everything happens for a reason.”
  • “People especially talented in the Futuristic theme are inspired by the future and what could be. They inspire others with their visions of the future.” Interesting, I think I daydream about the future a lot but I never considered it a “strength.”

The last test I want to share is called the DISC test. We take this one at the camp I worked at for two years. D stands for Drive, I for Influence, S for Steadiness, and C for Compliance. Can you guess which one I am based on my other tests? Well, I’m S (Steadiness).

Here’s what it says about me…”General Characteristics: Good listener; Team player. Possessive. Steady; Predictable. Understanding; Friendly.

Value to Team: Reliable and dependable. Loyal team worker. Compliant towards authority. Good listener, patient and empathetic. Good at reconciling conflicts.

Possible Weaknesses: Resists change. Takes a long time to adjust to change. Holds a grudge; sensitive to criticism. Difficulty establishing priorities.

Greatest Fear: Loss of security.

Motivated By: Recognition for loyalty and dependability. Safety and security. No sudden changes in procedure or lifestyle. Activities that can be started and finished.

Ideal Environment: Practical procedures and systems. Stability and predictability. Tasks that can be completed at one time. Few conflicts and arguments. A team atmosphere.

Remember a High S May Want: Security in situations, sincere appreciation, repeated work patterns, time to adjust to change, limited territory of responsibility.”
So there you have it folks. Now you should know the inner workings of Tiffany. For those of you who are actually still reading- wow, thanks. I appreciate it. Feel free to leave feedback about your own results or at least what you think you are, especially if you find we have commonalities.

My best friend from college is Aubrey Churchward. We lived next door to each other freshmen year in Rice 2A. The first time I met her she was army crawling down the hallway towards my room moaning and making a ruckus. I came out to see what was going on and found out Aubrey’s legs had “gone paralyzed.” (She was pretending…why? I have no idea) For some odd reason, I went along with it. A bunch of the girls were all out in the hall so I told everyone to lay hands on Aubrey and I prayed for healing. Miraculously, her legs were healed and she could walk again!

You would think this miracle of healing would start a close friendship, but no–our friendship started with the soulja boy dance. One weekend, Aubrey taught me the dance in our hallway and before you know it we were performing for a crowd and a new friendship was blooming.


Soulja Boy Dance (Although it looks like we're doing the robot in this shot)


We liked each other so much, we couldn’t stand to be apart for all of Christmas Break… so I went to Ohio!


At the reservoir by Aubrey's house


The next year we were roommates on Martin 3rd floor. The hype and excitement of freshman year had worn off but we still had fun with sword fights, being the mothers for a family group, adopting a cat named Trickery, going to an IU game, dancing our hearts out at formal, experiencing a snow day, and having incredibly high lofted beds!


Sword fights



Our cat Trickery


I actually don’t have a picture of Aubrey with Trickery because Aubrey kind of hates this cat sadly. It’s weird too, because she loves cats. And exciting news, Trickery recently had a kitten- Scurry. 🙂




Our junior year, we were lucky enough to get an apartment in South (just where we wanted!). We were roommates again only this time in a huge/beautiful/amazing apartment! And we got to live with Ricci which also was a blessing. God really worked everything out for us! Junior year was such an incredible time. (It’s when Team BRAT was formed so how could it not be incredible?) We went to Night of Thrills for the first time, had roommate dinners which sometimes included crazy role playing and often included Aubrey’s amazing beef stroganoff, hosted awesome parties and game nights, looked totally hot at formal (for the third time), had all kinds of fun birthday parties, started our band Soul Singing in the Bedroom, and even did some rapping.


The Apartment Roomies 🙂



Team B(rennan)R(icci)A(ubrey)T(iffany)



Our Fall Party


Now, it’s senior year and so far it’s been lots of fun. We’ve spent a day in Indy at a post secret exhibit, we’ve started poker night, and we’ve made a bucket list of all the things we want to do before graduation!


In Indy



The very first Poker Night!



Our Bucket List- it is so awesome!


Aubrey has been my best friend for almost four years now. I love our pillow talks late at night. I love laughing until I fall onto the floor in tears because of something she said. I love planning things with her. I love the random texts I get from her. I love our deep God discussions. I love the airplane game we play while sitting on our balcony. I love how she lets me vent whenever I need to. I love that she loves my family. I love that we keep each other accountable. I love that we can just look at each other and know what the other is saying. I love her amazing trivia skills. I love that we can make up stupid songs or how sometimes we’ll just burst into song. I love her cute curly hair. I love speaking in accents or other languages with her. I love how we’re different and yet we still love each other and get along great. I love the ways we’re alike. I love Aubrey and I can’t imagine not living with her in 7 months.

Thanks for being such a great friend Aubrey! I love you!

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Right now I wish I had:

1. Colts Tickets

2. More scarves!

3. Zumba DVD

4. Sunglasses

5. North Face Jacket

6. Serendipity the movie

Feel free to get me any of these things 🙂

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