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This is a personal list of the things I want to do before I die. Of course, I’m sure I’ll add to it as I get older but this is what I have so far. I’ve even already completed some of them!

1. Go to a Colts game

I want to be at a game where my man Dallas Clark is playing though.

2. Drag race

In Florida, I got the chance to drag race! It was awesome!

I was on the right.

3. Go to Australia

And now I’ll have my girl Adelyn to show me around 🙂

4. Be kissed on New Year’s Eve (at midnight of course)

5. Get married

6. Ride on the back of a motorcycle

In memory of Alex

7. Have children

This will come after the “Get married”

8. Go to Hawaii

9. Swim with dolphins

I’d be scared but I think I’d love it!

10. Go to Italy and stomp grapes

Inspired by the movie A Walk in the Clouds

11. Read the Bible

I’m not sure how long it took me but I have read the whole Bible from Genesis to Revelation.

12. Be in a dance routine

This is from when I was in Covenant Army dancing to Holy Ghost Church.

This is from our Justin Bieber dance at camp- we rocked that stage!

13. Donate my hair

I got 12 inches cut off in 2008 and donated it to Wigs for Kids.

14. See a Broadway play in New York City

I visited my best friend in New York City for a weekend, and we attended Sister Act on Broadway. It was hilarious! I loved it!

15. Play in the rain with my best friends

Such good times!

16. Ride in a hot air balloon

My boyfriend Travis took me on a hot air balloon ride as a college graduation gift! It was awesome!


Here’s the 3rd and final installment of my “30 Day” Photo Challenge.

#21 – A picture of something you wish you could forget

I saw about 2 minutes of this movie when I was little because it just happened to be on the TV (while no one was in the room) and I unfortunately saw some of it. I could barely get up the courage to search for this image in Google and could barely handle the few seconds of pictures I saw. I chose this one because it actually doesn’t have any spiders in it.

#22 – A picture of something you wish you were better at

I would love to be better at cooking. Whenever I’m making something special for someone, I get so nervous I usually end up in tears.

#23 – A picture of your favorite book

I don’t even know how to describe why I love this book so much.

#24 – A picture of something you wish you could change

I’d like to change the weather right now. I’m so ready for Spring!

#25 – A picture of something you are afraid of

I’m scared of drowning. So much so that I still have a hard time making myself go under water. I’ve never even jumped off a diving board!

#26 – A picture of something that means a lot to you

The Bible I’ve had since I was 12. It’s a little worn but full of underlining and notes. The polka dotted book is my journal- I’ve been writing in it since I moved to college. And my encouragement journal- full of scriptures and quotes that mean a lot to me.

#27 – A picture of yourself and a family member

This me and my brother, Logan, when he came to my formal with me junior year. We look weird because of an inside joke with our dad.

#28 – A picture of you last year and how you’ve changed since then

December 2009. Since last year, I’ve become a lot more sure of myself and who I am. I’ve grown in my faith and become closer to old friends while making new friends.

#29 – A picture that can always make you smile

My boyfriend Travis and I on our Valentine’s Day date. This was the night he asked me to be his girlfriend 🙂 — See smiling!

#30 – A picture that shows your true self

It was hard to pick a picture for this one but I went with this photo because I love swings. I think I’m joyful and playful and I like the simple pleasures in life. Also, I’m smiling at the camera- always ready for a picture!

For the 30 Day Photo Challenge, I’m splitting it into 3 blogs. Here is #11-20. Enjoy.

#11 – A picture of something you hate

I really don't like being cold so standing outside in the Winter trying to clean the snow and ice off my car is definitely something I hate!

#12 – A picture of something you love

I love learning how to do new things- like building bunk beds and using power tools!

#13 – A picture of your celebrity crush

Oh Lordy, is Ashton Kutcher good looking! He's also very funny which makes him even more attractive.

#14 – A picture of someone you could never imagine your life without

I had a hard time finding a photo that portrayed Jesus Christ the way I see Him, until I found this one. He is my best friend and most definitely someone I couldn't live without.

#15 – A picture of something you want to do before you die

Even though I know I will be scared, I want to ride in a hot air balloon before I die. I think it would be so beautiful and exciting.

#16 – A picture of someone who inspires you

My grandparents' marriage inspires me. They are so in love, so faithful and supportive of one another.

#17 – A picture of something that has made a huge impact on your life recently

This book has had the biggest impact on my life lately. It has helped me see my insecurities and say goodbye to them. I'm now finding my security in God alone.

#18 – A picture of your biggest insecurity

My biggest insecurity is not being good enough. This picture shows it all- not pretty enough, not smart enough, not athletic enough, etc.

#19 – A picture of someone you miss

I really miss talking/hanging out with my cousins Aubree and Morgan.

#20 – A picture of somewhere you’d love to travel

Hawaii- beach, ocean, sunset- yes please!

Coming soon #21-30

I’ve been seeing these 30 Day Photo Challenges all over Facebook and I really like them. Instead of spreading it out over 30 days though, I decided to just use a couple blogs for it. After all, who doesn’t like looking at pictures?

#1 –  A picture of yourself with 15 facts

1. I am dyslexic when it comes to numbers sometimes.

2. I never really learned left from right when I was little so I still have trouble with that. I’d rather you point me in the right direction than telling me to turn left or right.

3. I’m trying to learn military time.

4. I’ve played floor hockey in intramurals for the past four years.

5. The top three places I’d like to travel to are Hawaii, Australia and Italy.

6. Whenever I hear sirens (firetrucks, ambulances) I say a prayer for those involved in that emergency.

7. I’m the type of person who wakes up as soon as my alarm goes off in the morning.

8. I can’t stand it when people are always late.

9. When it starts to get warm outside again after Winter, I always wish I had a bicycle so I could go on rides with friends.

10. My toenails are always painted but I hardly ever paint my fingernails.

11. I’m a Colts fan but I’ve never actually been to a game…yet.

12. I love getting fresh flowers. I think I got that from my mom because she loves it too!

13. I’m horrible with directions and probably get lost 95% of the time when I’m going somewhere new. I really need a Tom Tom.

14. Speaking of Tom Tom, that was the nickname for one of my favorite teachers in high school– Mr. Thomas. My other favorite teachers were Mrs. Bailey and Mrs. Titzer.

15. I love sending cards to people… and I love receiving cards from people.

#2 – A picture of you and the person you have been closest with the longest

I've known my mom longer than anyone else and we've always been very close. This picture was after we got our nails done for the first time.

#3 – A picture of you and your friend(s)

These are my best friends from college (Aubrey, Brennan and Ricci)

#4 – A picture of a habit you wish you didn’t have

I bite my lips and not in a "cute" way. Sometimes I'll bite my lips so much they will bleed. It's just a nervous/bored habit that I wish I could break.

#5 – A picture of somewhere you’ve been

This is from my trip to West Virginia over the summer. I led a group of jr. highers for camping, white water rafting and zip-lining.

#6 – A picture of a person you’d love to trade places with for a day

I had a hard time figuring out what to choose for this one. But I decided on Jana Duggar. She has 18 brothers and sisters and incredibly faithful parents. I would like to see what it's like to be in her family for a day.

#7 – A picture of your most treasured item

Pictures are my most treasured item because they remind me of the people, places and memories that I hold dear.

#8 – A picture that makes you laugh


#9 – A picture of the person who has gotten you through the most

I know I already had a picture of my mom but she really is the person who has gotten me through the most. She's always there for me no matter what. She's been there through my celebrations and through my heart breaks.

#10 – A picture of the person(s) you do the silliest things with.

These are my roommates and best friends. Since we live together, things get pretty silly!

Stay tuned for #11-20!

Winter is my least favorite season. I can’t stand the cold. I don’t like slipping and falling every time I leave the indoors. I don’t like having to wear a coat everywhere. I hate cleaning the snow and ice off my car. Winter is just awful. But there’s one thing about it I like.

I like watching the snow fall. It’s beautiful. Snow is the most silent of all precipitation. The silence could seem eerie to some, but I like to think of it as magical. Maybe it’s silent so we can stop and listen. In a society full of tasks, schedules and go, go, go it’s nice to walk through the silence while the soft, whiteness falls around us. It’s gives us time to really listen without all the noise around us, time to think, to ponder, to wonder and to gaze.

I’m only 22 years old. But I’m the oldest. I’m the oldest when it comes to me and my brother. I’m the oldest in the Spelbring grandchildren. I’m the oldest of the Spelbring great grandchildren. And I’m the oldest of the Bubenzer great grandchildren.

As the oldest of a total of 24 (I think I added that right) and counting, I have quite a bit of pressure. I have a lot of kids looking up to me. I set the bar. Maybe that’s why I have such high standards for myself. I’ve always wanted to do the best I can in school. I’ve never been into drinking or smoking. I don’t use cuss words. I’d say I’m a pretty responsible person. I have to be. I’m setting an example for a lot of people.

Of course, I’m not perfect. Who is? I may have all those things going for me but there’s one thing I’ve been missing for, well, as long as I can remember. Security. Like almost every other woman on this planet, I’m filled with insecurities. Insecurities about my intelligence, my looks, my personality, my spirituality, my athleticism, my worth as a whole.

As I talked about in my Word of the Year blog, I’ve been reading So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore. For some reason, it’s taking me forever to read through this book. I think because I’m reading it slowly and letting the words really sink in. This morning, I read a chapter called Looking Out for Each Other. As I was reading this chapter, I realized in setting an example for my little cousins (focusing on my female cousins), I haven’t been setting a good example of a secure woman.

I hate hearing young girls putting themselves down. I usually try to stop it. “You are not fat,” I’ll say. “Stop saying that.” But that’s not good enough.  Because your weight shouldn’t matter. When you have Christ inside your heart you become completely whole and worthy whether you’re a size 2 or size 16. And how can I tell them to stop saying that, when I’m thinking those same insecure thoughts myself?

God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ. But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all surpassing power is from God and not from us. 2 Corinthians 4

We have the light. We have the treasure. If God is living inside us, how can we ever be insecure? We’ve been believing lies. Our mind is very bad at defending itself from the flaming arrows constantly being shot at it.

When you wake up in the morning, before putting on your makeup or drinking your coffee repeat this verse to yourself: How lovely is your dwelling place, O Lord Almighty! Psalm 84:1 Do you realize that dwelling place is you? If Jesus Christ is living in your heart, if you’ve accepted Him then you are that dwelling place. And how lovely you are!

“Most women will never believe that a secure woman is a real, live possibility until they see one face-to-face. Problem-to-problem. Threat-to-threat. Chase-to-grace. If you’ll become the first example in your sphere of influence, you won’t be the last. You may pop up all by your lonely self in the beginning, but soon another will pop close by, then another, because it’s as contagious as its counterpart. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if a few of those girls who popped up around you were twelve or thirteen years old, with their whole adolescence and adulthood ahead of them? Anybody can be like everybody else. Only those who are exceptional choose to believe the possible over the probable. You, beloved, were created to be exceptional.” – Beth Moore

I was created to be exceptional. I think I need to repeat that to myself every hour! As I learn to get my security from God alone, as I say goodbye to my insecurities, I hope that I can be an example for those around me – especially all those little cousins I love so much. I want them to look up to me and see a woman secure in herself because of the Spirit that lives within her. I would love for them to grow up feeling beautiful and lovely because they know their worth is not based on everything the world tells them it is based on, but instead based on Christ who has already paid the price and made them more worthy and exceptional than they can even fathom.

I encourage you to also be the example for the girls/women in your life. Let’s make security contagious. Let’s grab the hand of the woman of God next to us and walk together blocking the flaming arrows attacking our minds and lifting one another up in God’s security.

My church, East Side Church of God in Anderson, is partnering with Change this World, an organization who’s purpose is to rid this world of starvation.

See, every three seconds a person dies from starvation. But the world produces enough food for every human being to have 2, 700 calories a day!

Our church sold shirts for $20 which equals 50 meals. I bought one that says, “Love. Hungry for Change.” on the front and “This shirt fed 50 people. What did yours do?” on the back.

East Side is raising this money for Change this World. Then we will have a packing day where everyone will come and help package food for people in Haiti and Africa. Then the food will be shipped directly to those who need it.

One Sunday they gave everyone water bottles. We are supposed to drink the water and then fill the bottle with dimes. In two weeks we are supposed to bring back the bottles full of dimes which will equal $95 which makes for 350 meals. I searched through all my change and put all my dimes inside. Every time I pay with cash, I ask for my change in dimes so I can add it to the bottle. I didn’t think it would be very hard to fill a water bottle with dimes. But it’s taking a long time. I’m not even close to having it filled!

So here’s what you can do to help me change this world. Send me your dimes! Look through your coin purse, your pockets, your couch cushions and find all the dimes you can find. Then give them to me in person. Send them to me in the mail.  Help me fill this water bottle and maybe even more!  Help feed the starving!

My address is Tiffany Fry, Anderson University, 1100 E. 5th St., Anderson, IN 46012.

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